Porn shows sex but not intimacy
May be because I am from India, the land of the KamaSutra, its very rare for me to find sensual erotic porn in portraying genuine intimacy between a couple. In fact I get turned on more from watchin clips of actual couples on fetlife more. Regular porn usually seem to be geared towards mostly teenagers or people who haven’t matured beyond high school.
Here is a typical structure of a 20 minute porn clip:
1. man and woman meet
2. the undress each other and kiss briefly
3. guy says something about her ass or boobs, asks her to do some catwalk
4. woman takes his dick out, does a HJ/BJ (for too much time)
5. They end up in bed, guy barely goes down on the woman
6. Starts pounding her in various positions and ends with cream pie
Sex is meant to be enjoyable and pleasurable for everyone involved, where is the focus on the woman’s pleasure. Everyone who actually had sex knows this is not how real bedrooms work.
Following is my summary of my critique on regular porn:
1. Everything looks heavily produced,
2. un attainable physiques (both men and women)
3. Everyone is waxed and oiled up
4. Too much focus on genitals.
5. Dont even get me started on how 50-60% of runtime is just focused on a handjob
6. The actors and actresses dont seem to have a good time.
7. The guy always has a frustrated look, like he is breaking stones using a sledge hammer and it is not budging, you are with a beautiful woman, why not savor the moment
8. Objectifying of women
9. I also notice the actresses dont seem to enjoy much, with the fake moans and screams. (I wouldn’t even want to imagine or relate to being drilled in the ass by a 12inch dick)
10. Lack of inclusivity ex: alternate lifestyles (tattoos, piercings etc), people of color, average and regular bodies people can relate to,
11. Disgusting step family porn
Porn may be teaching young and impressionable people all the wrong things in a bedroom. Few examples
1. Choking is always enjoyable to women (if she is into kink and consented it is different)
2. It is not sex if you don't have anal
3. it is not sex if there aren't loud screams or moans involved
3. You have to use 4-5 positions, have to have huge gigantic dicks, it needs to be a HIIT work etc etc..
You know the saying, be the change you want to be? I started producing and making port to fix some of the points I made earlier.
I want to shoot intimate moments between regular couples of all shapes and sizes. I want to focus on the pleasure of the woman, even include some discussions about consent and limits.
If I am shooting kink or fetish I want to include aspect of safewords, things to be concerned about while tying rope etc.
